A purpose in individuality

We are each born with a special talent.

Everyone has a different voice, different smell, and different fingerprints. These are only a few of the things that make us all so very unique.

If we paid more attention to the things we were naturally good at, and honed in on those skills, perhaps there would be less insecurity, more passionate studies, and less crime.

Sharing mundane tasks with children can help them to find joy in such things.

I am a big advocate of finding ways to not be a nag, and getting children to do their cleaning duties has been a big fail in succeeding with this task. Recently I noticed my youngest son working harder and faster to clean if I am helping him and chatting with him. Could it be that easy? Maybe it is variant depending on the child, but if I offer to help Kid clean his room in exchange for helping me with the kitchen, he happily accepts. Not only that, but he works hard. A couple of times he would stand around and talk while I cleaned, but after a little reminder of our deal, he would work diligently again.

This experience made me think about the time I lived with room-mates in my early twenties. Whenever I had to do a mundane task such as organizing my (usually messy) room, I would ask one of them to come in and sit on my bed and keep me company. We would talk and the chore would be far less painful. Sometimes I would invite my musician friends to come over and play for me while I cleaned, and I would feed them dinner and make them tea. Either way, it was worth it to have company during such a task.

These days, a few moments alone to clean my room is a pleasure. I had forgotten the way I used to be. Seeing Kid’s response to family cleaning together reminded me of those fond memories of making cleaning a social event. Our house is now much cleaner, and we have more time to talk one-on-one.

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Kid always enjoys being in his room more when it is tidy, but struggles with understanding the organization¬† part. I enjoy this time with him, and take pleasure in the fact that I am teaching him a worthwhile lesson. Someday I know he won’t need me to help him, maybe he won’t even want me to. And when he leaves home, maybe he will ask his mates to come over and lend him some company too.

Finding more together time

Time together with our loved ones is so important. With everyone’s hectic schedule, sometimes it is difficult to make time for all the things we want to do. By doing some things together that we might normally do alone, it is amazing how much more time there is in a day.

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We had a house guest come and visit who doesn’t like to play Lego or Pokemon, however she loves to read. Kid loves to be near others, so he spent his reading time beside her. They enjoyed their afternoon reads together. It was quiet, educational, and peaceful. A great way to spend an afternoon.